However, Jesus being the holy and perfect example for us, I think it is not inappropriate for us to take away a lesson that violence as a response can be a correct response in certain situations. As you point out, Jesus was cleansing His house.
Are you the Son of God fulfilling prophecy from Isaiah? Everything Jesus did was not some archetype for our lives. He had an historical mission to fulfill and it is important to note when this took place in the Gospels. Remember that Jesus is a living God, not some symbolic set of tales for our ethical code. That's one reason I have never understood the use of this incident by many Protestants to justify doing harm to others (or at least using Christ to justify it).
This is the problem with
sola scriptura.
Is that not why Jesus spoke, among other things, of taking up one's cross and following Him?
No. You're talking about Mark 8:34-35. This utterance of Jesus challenges all believers to authentic discipleship and total commitment to himself through self-renunciation and acceptance of the cross of suffering, even to the sacrifice of life itself.
Oh, I dunno, both commandments come from the Old Testament, and God didn't seem to have any trouble having them coexist with violence then. But leaving that aside, I see no reason why they cannot coexist. I could, if I wanted to take the time, and probably so could you if you wanted, argue that Jesus cleansing the temple in that violent manner was was acting out of both devotion to the Father and love for His neighbors. I would say at the very least that they obviously coexisted with Jesus, unless you're going to argue that Jesus violated His own commandments.
He was fulfilling the prophecy of Isaiah. Not exactly a role for you and I, is it?