plane, I'm not gonna answer any of the questions in your last post, simply because it's all distractionary irrelevance.
I think you oughtta focus a little less on "all of recorded history" and the search for other nations of purportedly greater benevolence and stuff like that and just try to live a little more in the present and the recent (i.e., post-WWII) history because in international affairs, that is all that is really meaningful to the rest of the world. (Domestically, I don't see how you can separate out the longer view from the present, at least in terms of race relations.) But in international affairs, most Third World people living today have reason to hate America because of what happened to them and/or their parents and/or grandparents because of the U.S.A. The longer view of what good the U.S. did in fighting a Civil War over slavery or whatever other real or imaginary good deeds you have reference to does not have the immediacy of a family napalmed, a relative tortured to death, a 40-year military occupation, three generations of life in poverty because of Third World "Development Loans" and other scams, invasions, land grabs, etc. People whose families were tortured to death by death squads in Guatemala or by the army in Chile or Argentina don't give a shit about the Green Revolution or even Omaha Beach.
I think you have an idealized concept of the U.S.A. and whenever challenged you fall back on, "We made mistakes, what other nation didn't?" or "We tried too hard to do good," completely mischaracterizing your efforts at world domination or the suppression of national liberation movements as misguided attempts to do good rather than naked imperialism.
In a nutshell, you are using a fictionalized, unrealistic and long-outdated model of a "good U.S.A." that never was in order to avoid looking at the actual, real history of your country.