If words matter, then equality must consist of using the identical words to describe all marriages.
If by some very unlikely quirk, present gay marriages were officially relabeled civil unions, there would be a bazillion lawsuits and taxpayers would get hit with the expense in every state and territory. If they allowed present gay marriages to be still called marriages, then that would be unequal treatment before the law and that would involve great and unnecessary legal expense.
Marriage in the US is of two types: civil and religious. We have been calling them by the same name forever, and with no serious repercussions.
I cannot imagine why anyone gives a damn whether Adam and Steve are married, civilly unified, religiously unified or just living in sin. The only difference is a piece of paper no one except perhaps loan officers or police investigators have a right to see..
I am thinking that the next time you have one of your chats with God or Jesus, you discuss the unease you have with seeing gay couples talk about their "marriages". It seems like a better alternative that discussing it with Adam or Steve, since one of them might just punch you in the nose., and Jesus did not punch people. Of course, God might be tempted to make you the next Job,and let Satan diddle you.
Just wait and buy a new dictionary in which you will find the word redefined, and stop bitching. On a scale of one to ten in importance, this one rates a 0..