The opposition to Prop 8 went wrong in several ways in CA, and the blame can be spread around quite evenly, even to the opponents of it and their choice in ads. Be that as it may, it was heartening to see that the youth vote was in opposition to Prop 8, by a margin of (roughly) 2:1. That enforces my belief that we will see equal rights, but it will take time, and probably a Supreme Court decision. Constitutional Amendments can be repealed, it's even happened at the Federal level, so I don't hold a lot of stock in that. Basically, I think that we (the gay community) need to sit back and take a moderate approach, and allow the effects of time and public favor roll in our direction. That some people don't "get" the need for equal rights isn't surprising, most of the people that I know that are against gay marriage aren't religious in any sense of the word, but it's an ingrained prejudice rooted in what was once an enforced societal control. It will take time to change that, and I think that we need to be patient.
An aside to sirs: the point that XO made regarding the Florida law was the point that I was trying to make, and why I'm beginning to see the pro's of arguing in support of "gay marriage". As you know, I'd support an alternative that supports civil unions with equal rights, but the laws in both FL and AZ (from what I understand) ban anything that gives anything close to equal rights re: marriage to same sex couples. That makes it harder for me personally to compromise and kind of pushes me into taking a hard line position that I personally don't like taking.