<<Funny how that "fetus" looked just like an premature infant little girl, arms, legs, eyes, ears, the works. But what do you care, it's "just a fetus" to you.>>
Barbie dolls look human too. What's next for these wack jobs, funerals for broken Barbie dolls? I'm guessing you don't have babies, don't have much experience with babies, never raised a child and like most typical conservatives don't know what the fuck they are talking about, when they attempt to pontificate on real-life issues, but here from my limited experience of life I will attempt to clue you in:
A baby is a lot more than something, some lump of tissue, which "looked just like a premature infant little girl."
A baby is a tiny little person you hold in your arms, heartbeat to heartbeat, cradle, kiss, wash, feed, change diapers for, lie down next to, rock to sleep, take outside for fresh air, listen to her crying, dress, undress, take the temperature of, bring to the paediatrician, show off to your friends and family, try to interpret the meaning of whatever sounds she is making, marvel over each stage of development, compare with friends' and neighbours' children, try to decipher family traits in her ever-changing features, show her to herself in the mirror cheek-to-cheek with you, put your finger in her tiny little grip to feel her close on it, watch her attempts to communicate vocally with her own fingers or with the mobile hung over her crib, wonder if those cries are teething pains, talk to, sing to, make funny noises for and about ten thousand other things.
Anyway, that IMHO is the difference between a baby and a fetus, and it is also an indication of why it is so much more awful to lose a baby than a fetus. You cannot compare the two and your friends should not. Most people will grieve and mourn the death of a fetus. It's normal. Very few will hold a fetus funeral - - not only is it not normal, it is sick, weird and bizarre, as is any comparison by which fetuses are made to appear as anything near the equivalent of a child in terms of humanity or in terms of loss.
You seem to think that all truth in these matters is subjective - - that if one couple is so grief-struck by the loss of a fetus or in such deep mourning that only a funeral will give proper expression to that grief or that mourning, then this "proves" that the fetus was really a human being. But the issue of the humanity of the fetus is really much more objective - - the argument for the humanity of the fetus would be if it were universally or near-universally accepted, or common in civilized parts of the world, for funerals to be held for fetuses, you might be able to argue that mankind accepts fetuses as humans. That those who don't are the wackos and weirdos. But in fact experience teaches otherwise - - very few fetuses receive funerals. So few in fact that it appears that what we are witnessing at a fetal funeral is not a proof of the humanity of the fetus but of the craziness and weirdness of the people conducting the funeral.
