I have a fondness for the female posters that are far too infrequent, in their postings.
As you mentioned me by name, I am concerned that you may be confused about my gender. FTR, I'm getting old but it STILL works -lol!
Actually, I have seldom been personally "attacked" myself. There has been the occasional ad hominem response, and a flame war or two, but that is to be expected. I have seen, however, some vicious attacks on (and in some cases from) posters like, for example, terra and BSB. I love intelligent debate, and frankly it is my advancing diabetes which saps my strength and makes it hard to try to cut through the Bravo Sierra. Also, I get wordy and there is nothing worse than typing a six paragraph response and then accidentally deleting it!!!!
I swear on my mother's grave I just accidentally deleted the words "accidentally deleting it!" in the above para - lol!!!
But I check in here from time to time and see far more cussing, fussing and name-calling than intelligent debate. That's frustrating. I have little energy these days and I'd rather spend it honestly analyzing an issue than hearing the litany of ideological word-bombs thrown in place of rational responses. I seldom debate anymore because this is the place where I debate and other places don't seem like home. I even tried checking out PIC on MSN just a few months after the breakup of Yahoo Clubs and it was already foreign to me.
And I have to be perfectly honest. I frequently think of inviting people here, but some of the threads here would make me embarrassed to let my friends know I hung out here. If they were infrequent lapses of etiquette it would be one thing. But there are posters here who see no reason not to use foul language, personal attack, racial slurs and generally offensive behavior. That's not a place I want to take my friends. I know it is the opinion of most of the remnant here that civil debate can include those elements, but I believe that not to be the case.
I know, I fall into those same bad habits here. That is another reason I go away so frequently. I don't like how I get when I have heard one too many anti-American rant or EITHER side belittling the other instead of engaging them. I get angry, arrogant and egotistical. I get snide, self-righteous and condescending. I get stressed-out, burned-out and pissed-off. I get other kinds of bad things that come in groups of three. I get sidetracked by stupid word games. I get . . . wait, where was I?
Oh yeah. It isn't necessarily the victims who get driven away by personal attacks, though some surely do. But some of us stay away because we would rather do something uplifting, which intelligent debate can be, and pointless ideological warfare never is.