To know what was going on, you had to read between the lines, paying special attention to exactly what they din NOT say. They phrased things so they could later claim that they were misquoted.
This is very interesting.
I try to weight what I hear with experience also, but my experiences are quite different from yours .
Sometimes I might fail because I have weighted wrongly , but I can't just accept what I hear without coloring it .
I like to think I am giving evaluation and independent thought to the news , then I like to get your take on it .
Not because I will agree with your thought, that would waste our time , I already agree with myself, seeking people I agree with to affirm myself is just avoiding a deep look into the subject.
Getting a well thought out disagreement is golden, firstly it makes it less likely that I will simply indulge my prejudices and accept a stupidity without examining it.
(Obviously it doesn't become impossible , less likely is all I dare claim.)
Because I am planning to present an idea to a contrarian, I am more prone to examine it critically myself , then if it still has a glairing error, an opponent will pry it out to my embarrassment and benefit.
Secondly , a differing point of view opens ideas I might never have for myself at all without the assist. Or if I did think of the idea , I might assign a totally different importance to the array of facts and opinions so that the same information can support a reversed conclusion.
Someone with a different skillset a different experience base and a different means of thought doesn't affirm my thinking , he hones it.
In this group XO seems to disagree with me the most, isn't this a gem I should treasure?
Ok , I love to be agreed with also, that is just not what I am talking about now.