the absolute reason I doubt this would be a severe problem is that every single military leader in the U.S. who oppose gays in the military cannot and have not said gays should not serve because of ability or conduct.
you would think those 2 issues would be the forfront. you bring up conduct but have not brought any examples from gulf war,vietnam,korea,bosnia
all had gays serving in them and being discharged also.
totally target rich for conduct charges if any exist.
I`m not saying you should look for them, but I have serious doubt the military is turning a blind eye in favor of gays.
they of all people would be keeping score and making it public
you don`t want them serving, but so is the military.but is it a good idea to deny an ablebody & willing group of people.