<< . . . when there's legitimate intel referencing an impending attack of some sort within the next month, how fast is your "relationship building" going to take? >>
That's a valid point but I already conceded it in an earlier post. There are situations where torture might be more effective than any other tactic in getting out information fast.
The real moral issue is whether, even in that case, torture should be applied. I would say no. Better to suffer the surprise attack and its casualties and plunge back into the fight afterwards than to compromise the moral values that our society lived by, even in the darkest days of WWII.
It seems from the rest of your post that you're not all bad after all, that you would probably OK waterboarding but not blowtorching, even to root out the details of an impending attack. Well, without being too condescending about it, I have to say that that is evidence of some small degree of enlightenment.
I think the bottom line is the Golden Rule - - if you think it's OK for an enemy to waterboard your team, then it's OK to waterboard theirs. I can't think offhand of too many people who wouldn't condemn the waterboarding of Americans, in fact I believe that after the war some Japs went to prison for exactly that crime, as well they should have, so I think it's kind of hypocritical for Americans now to suddenly discover that it's an OK thing to do.