That's a very good point kimba. But the issue of "choice" is really an issue of timing. That's why it is irrelevant.
Some people here are saying that an individual may not have a choice in being attracted to someone of the same gender, but they have a choice in whether or not to have a relationship with someone from their gender.
So, where you are free to pursue a relationship with a woman (encouraged to do so, in fact, so long as neither of you are married), the homosexual individual is discouraged from pursuing his or her relationship and I'm not sure what his or her alternatives are. That's what I'm asking, but answers aren't exactly forthcoming.